Posted by debbie on October 24, 2000 at 21:14:14:
In Reply to: There is so much pain posted by Tammy on October 23, 2000 at 15:23:25:
Tammy, First of all I'm very sorry that you are experiencing such a difficult situation. I also lost my soulmate. My husband of 22 yrs. was 44 yrs old when he died suddenly (result of a car accident) almost one year ago (11-14-99) I can understand and relate to the vast black hole of emptiness you spoke of. I know that we are not all the same and what works for some does not necessarily work for another. But I was blessed with a sister that sought out help for me immediatly. I went to my first "Young Widows Support Group" meeting in Dec. of 99 less than one month after my husband had died. I was still in shock and couldn't even bring myself to speak, but I knew it was "right" I could feel it, even through the shock. I have not missed a monthly meeting since last Dec. I look forward to each and every one of them.. I also received counseling a few times after his death. And was put on medication for depression (which I still take) The medication helped almost immediately. I was afraid it would mask my feeling/emotions but my Dr. assured me it would not...and it didn't. I still cry, in fact somedays are more than I care to bare. but they are becoming fewer and less extreme. Time does help, if you are helping yourself during that time. I would encourage you to find a support group of widows (especiall young) or at the very least a good grief counselor. I share your pain and I'll keep you in my prayers (that's a big help also!)