Posted by Marya Rodriguez on June 15, 2002 at 11:25:52:
In Reply to: widow at 28 posted by Brandy Croteau on June 10, 2002 at 00:27:16:
I too was widowed at 28, our son was 5 months old at the time. It has now been 9 months since he died. I am better now than I was then, every day gets easier, I am starting to find my own way. My advice is this, let your self ride the waves of greif, don't try to hold it back, it will come out anyway. Don't give yourself a time table, forgive others that do, they don't know any better. Forgive yourself when you are not perfect, you are doing an exceptional job in an horrible situation. Celebrate your ability to get up each day, that is the hardest feet of all. Take some time for yourself, I know it is necessary to hold back in front of the kids, but it is important that you let it out (for you and them). Slowly and in time and piece by piece decide what must be changed and what will be cherished, you will find that in doing this you will create a life for you and your family that balences what was and what will be.