Posted by David on August 22, 2001 at 23:19:45:
In Reply to: My Best Friend..... Ahhhh... why? posted by KD Bosch on August 21, 2001 at 22:57:06:
My wife passed away Dec. 22, 1998. During the course of her illness, she asked the same question you implied, "Why me? Why did God let this horrible thing happen?"
I wrote "Her Shoes", posted here, to help me understand the why's. I believe that 'stuff' happens... just happens. It is our reaction to this 'stuff' that enables us to extract any meaning from it. It is hard to explain this to anyone, let alone a child, so I do not know what you could say to yours. Let your reaction to this tragedy speak when words fail you.
My wife read a book some years before her death entitled,"Why bad things happen to good people". Maybe your answer lies there.
I still struggle with the difficult questions. I ask them, though. I yell at God... curse Him sometimes, for allowing the best in my life to have been taken from me, from my two girls. He allows my pain to flow from my harse words to Him. He seems to know when to send the answers... like manna they fall.
I am blessed to have the love of friends and family. I am fortunate to retain my faith. I am thankful for those of you who listen and speak words I cannot, here on these pages.
This place is about healing. Although it deals with death, it is filled with so much life. The human spirit is alive here. It is alive in you.
Ask the questions, rail at life... find your peace... in your time.
God bless you on your journey. We are here to listen.
david