Posted by Marian on May 18, 2000 at 08:55:38:
In Reply to: how do we go on posted by joanne on January 18, 19100 at 21:42:38:
Joanne, My heart aches with you! I also lost my beloved husband, father and best friend! It is okay if you cry, talk of your loneliess
because if someone has not walked in our shoes, they have no idea what this life is like. There is no way anyone can begin to imagine! Just hold
your head high, cry and talk of your heart aches. There is someone out there that will listen, and most of all God hears, he sees each tear that falls
in your aching heart. Many times He has enfolded His great arms of love around me and comforted me. He has given me a host of friends and family that
is always there to hear me. Not just listen, but hears me, and that is different! I love you dear, and there is no time limit on when you will get
over this, as the other think. Life never goes back to normal as it does for others, but you make a new life. It is so difficult, there is no easy
answer or way, but hang in there. Just remember that God made you and put you here for a special reason, and He also suffers your loss, and loneliness
and will give you a comfort that you will never feel from others. But.....you ALSO need others. Just never be ashamed of your feelings for you always have
us who are right there with you. It has been 4 years that my husband passed away, and every day when I get up I miss him till I fall asleep at night. Just
look for him to come around the corner. Cry yet, and hurt so badly. He always encouraged me and can just feel that each day.
Was telling some friends one day that I go to bed very late and get up late in the morning. One said they envied me, and I looked at them and said, "You would
not want to trade places with me!" Then they agree. They have someone to snuggle up to at night and someone to hug them every day, someone to tell them each day
that they love them unconditionally, they have their best friend to talk to, and so they have no idea under the sun where we are.
If you care to write to me, feel free to do so. I hurt for you, I ache for you, I feel for you, and love you.
Marian