Posted by David on April 15, 2000 at 21:36:31:
In Reply to: When do you get better? posted by Connie on April 08, 2000 at 21:49:20:
Hello Connie,
I, too, lost my wife a little over a year ago. We have two girls, 17 and 19. Though they are older, they still need their mother. I haven't experienced the anger portion of the grieving process, I feel only a great sense of loss, sadness, and loneliness. My wife was cremated and the family held interment services today. I wanted to hold on a bit longer.
You have asked when the pain will go away. I only know that the everyday, seemingly meaningless things we do in the course of just surviving are the strengths, the tools, the sustaining power we need to move us to/through a new day. We (humans) are the only animal or being on this planet that searchs for meaning. For the others, simply taking in that next breath is enough. They seem to flourish with that simple truth...Life is enough. Your childrens' needs will propel you on.
Life truely doesn't get any better than this...this living, this loving of those close (your children, in your case). Breathe the breath of life...inhale...exhale...the love you need is there. It's in the hug of a friend and the kiss goodnight from a child.
I would enjoy an open dialog...David