Posted by Iris Hoeller on January 19, 19100 at 09:18:18:
In Reply to: how do we go on posted by joanne on January 18, 19100 at 21:42:38:
having lost the love of my life in September I understand so well what you are going thru.
I miss Fred and his love so much that sometimes I feel like going crazy of loneliness and sadness. I cannot stand the thought of not having him around me anymore, at least not physically.
I can asure you that I and all the other people on this site exactly know what you are feeling and going thru. That is why this site helps so much - it is unbelievable how much it helps to just let all your feelings out, to share your thoughts and stories!!!!!
I tried to find a supportgroup in order to talk to other widows or widowers but could not find any. But then I found this site and it is such a big relief and help.
Do not worry about having to put up a good front! It is not necessary to make others believe that you are strong! Just do whatever you feel like doing, cry whenever it is necessary for you to do. I don't think it is good if you suppress any feelings.
With Fred half of me died too and it will never be here again because it is something that only the two of us shared.
It has been 4 months today and not a second passes without thinking of Fred, about the wonderful time we had and about all the things we would have done in the future. But I try to keep up all my memories and be happy and grateful to have known and loved the most wonderful and extraordinary person on earth.
I dedicated my whole life to Fred, gave him all my love and wanted to be there for him to support him thru everything .... Knowing I made him the happiest man on earth (that's what he told me over and over again) is wonderful, even if it was for a much too short time.
You can write anytime when you feel lonely and want to share something or just want to talk ....
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