Posted by Robert on November 29, 2002 at 15:24:37:
In Reply to: A thought for all posted by Barbara on November 13, 2002 at 17:13:12:
Thanks Barbara, it sounds like you've gotten through some of this.
My wife is dying, we found out in September. She has Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia, the prognosis is 3-6 years and the doctor says probably less than five.
So far I haven't made much good use of that time, I've spent it falling to pieces.
What would you have done, or anyone reading this, different, what are you glad you did, if you knew ahead of time your spouse was dying?
I guess there will be a lot of time after she dies for crying. I cry for the two children, age 10 and 11 now, that won't have a mom. I'm afraid for her, I guess for the painful death she has to go through and I don't know what happens when you die. She believes in Heaven and that comforts her I guess.
On one hand I know I should be happy she is alive, but three months ago we were worried about retirement and had plans to travel around the country in an RV. All that is gone now. She is having complications already due to lowered immune system and I don't know how much good time we have left, mostly she has either pnumonia or an infection of one sort or another.
Okay, to the point. What should I be doing right now?
The kids, what should they get? We hardly have any pictures of their mother. We have no video. When she is done we have darn little to remember her by. She says that's the way it's been most of history...
What should I be doing for her?
Okay, you get the idea... :) Thanks.