Posted by Barb Whitcraft on November 06, 2001 at 13:53:39:
In Reply to: too soon for relationship? posted by Cindy on August 30, 2001 at 16:27:28:
You sound like me. My husband died of cancer 12/16/97 and our youngest son died 12/14/97 because he thought he had cancer. I was home by myself for the longest time and then a couple of gals thought I should go out with them. After several pool night games, I was among 10 beautiful, SKINNY, pretty gals and this guy comes toward our way. He was divorced for five year after a 24 year marriage. We hit it off so well. In our Tlingit culture in Alaska they say you should wait a long time. I could bear being away from him because he made me smile, he made me feel secure like I NEVER had felt and never looks at anyone when he is with me. I could feel it in his kisses that he loves me. Anyway, people started talking and they were telling my mom that they thought it was too soon. I love my mom (who passed away last year, also from cancer), that "I don't hear that you went to visit my daughter when she is at home crying" "I don't see you inviting her out to dinner" "I don't see you comforting her during the holidays", "she has someone who loves her and when I die, I don't have to worry about her" So I think if that smile comes on your face again, someone loves you dearly to keep it there. Spouses will never be forgotten -- memories of some happy times will flicker out now and then but, part of life is to live it to the fullest too. Right? I read this peom somewhere: "To conquer a wound you must heal it; and to heal it; you must feel it." Go on with your life -- for your sake. God Bless. BJ Whitcraft