Posted by Heather on August 13, 2001 at 16:21:32:
In Reply to: Just Lost My Husband posted by Lucy on August 06, 2001 at 19:36:19:
Lucy-
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is nice there are places like this to express your feelings. I too lost my husband suddenly when i was 25. He & his friend were coming home from a hunting trip when a lady crossed over the mediun and slammed into his truck killing him instantly (his best friend didn't have a scratch on him). He was 27 and we did not have children either. I was afraid to go to sleep because he wasn't there with me and I hated waking up in the morning because he wasn't there. I cried all the time until I finally ran out of tears. I started feeling so alone, so I joined a widow support group and that really helped me. I was able to express my feelings to others who understood exactly how I felt and how lonely it can be. Friends try to understand, but they can't, not unless they have been through it. Now, it has been 2 1/2 years that Derek has been gone and I still miss him terribly. He was my everything. I just think about all the good times we had. Even though he is gone, he can still make be smile through all the memories I have of us together. I feel fortunate to have had a love with him that most people never find in a lifetime. I wish you all the best. It is how you decide to handle yourself that will get you through this. I know Derek would want me to carry on, so that is what I try to do everyday. I am finally to the point where thinking of him doesn't make me break down in tears, but rather smile and think that I am so lucky to have had him in my life for 4 wonderful years.
"Don't think about what you missed, think about what you had."
Best wishes to you-
Heather