Posted by David on August 03, 2001 at 08:14:04:
In Reply to: Different kind of widow posted by valerie on July 29, 2001 at 12:39:16:
Theresa said it best in her recent posting,"...i truly feel in my heart that he knows he made a big mistake that couldn't be taken back."
My wife suffered the pain of mental torment from past abuse. She, too, hid in the numbness of a medicated sleep. She no longer feels the pain... angels are free from that earthly weight.
You will remember the good in him. The memories will come like a fresh breeze. Time will bring the remembering. Life is the good times and the bad. I hear most say to remember the good times. I must also remember the tough times... the shouts... the anger. All were parts of her. To forget the dark hours is to see a distorted view... to see an incomplete picture. I open my eyes, my heart to feel her life in its entirety. It is then that I feel her love, know that it lived through the storms and lives through her death.
Your loved one is there... residing in your heart... in your memories. You have mentioned many things that he loved. Remember that you were one of them.
God bless you on this journey of healing.
david