Posted by Mike on January 16, 2001 at 09:37:08:
In Reply to: Losing my wife posted by John on January 04, 2001 at 19:40:27:
John I am with you. My wife was thirty when she was diagnosed with a rare cancer. She died 7 months later on Dec 12, 2000. I have a 4 yr old girl and a 1 1/2 yr old boy. My friends, family and church have all helped me, but the one thing that has helped me the most is talking.
Talking about Joanna, the times we had the love we shared. All grief is different John, none is worse than the other. It's all bad and it's all good. It's bad for the loss, but good for the healing process. It has been one month since Joanna died. I watched her die for 7 months. I thank God for the 10 years we had. The key is to learn all you can from the grief. You have to face it to heal it, but take your time. Sometimes I feel great like I could take on the world and others like the wrong one died. I cry, laugh, scream, and smile all in the same day.
The key is to realize that you are not alone. There are a lot of us out there and shared grief lightens the load. That little child of yours will depend on you now. It is an awesome responsibility, but such a privilege because your wife is just as much a part of her as you are and always will be. Take comfort in that.