Posted by Sammy on March 30, 2000 at 17:51:29:
In Reply to: THE SUDDENESS, SADNESS AND NO EXPLANAITION posted by Julie Gallacher on March 29, 2000 at 14:42:45:
Dear Julie,
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. From what you are saying it does look like you are still in shock and it is true that life can never be the same. Different doesn't mean bad atleat not all the time. As time goes by things may change..when people told me this initially whrn I lost my husband two years ago I was nor sure...but today I can say that it does better...I still don't know what triggers the tears of sadness sometimes.
Most important thing to memember is that your husband is alive in your heart, memories, and in your children. Sometimes you need more than eyes to see...see with your heart...don't you think your husband is with you?.
I know that my husband is with me, his love is the source of my strength, hope and happiness. He is my guardian angle...
few books that might help "Promise of Death" by Eknath Eshwaran, "Care of Soul" by Thomas Moore.
I won't lies that every thing is goinf to be ok, but I promise that "Perception" makes a big difference...and you can change things. You can set the best example to you children, teach them how important it is to be strong. Sure, it will be hard initially taking care of all the things that he used by your self..but it's not impossible. When in doubt ask you husband in your heart, you will get an answer. After I lost my husband, I quit Micrsoft & started going to school doing Master's. Soon I will be getting the degree..I owe it all to my husband, his love for me and my faith that he is taking care of me. Remember the person you truly loves you want's you to be happy...I try my best not to cry..b'coz that's the only thing that hurts my husband.
Please feel free to send me mails, I will try to respond. Take care of your self & meditate if you like to.
Love & May GOD bless you and children,
S