Posted by Bud on September 07, 2001 at 20:35:49:
In Reply to: widowed at age 35 posted by Lori on July 14, 2001 at 01:58:56:
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I am now 34 years old. I lost my wife 4 years ago. She was only 27 years old and seven months pregnant when she had a brain anurism. I am now left alone with our son. I can honestly say that the pain does ease whith time. I was told this when my wife first passed away but I could not believe the the pain would ever subside. The pain does, however, lessen in degrees.
I was married for only 3 years. I know that you were briefly married as well. Something I encountered was that people seemed to associate the extent I could love by the years we had been married. My wife was my life, as I'm sure your husband was yours. I believe you can love a person as much in 1 year as in 50 years.
I still hold on to the memories. These memories at first brought sorrow, now bring a more happy feeling. I feel blessed, for I have many beautiful and happy memories with a very special person. Many people never have such a love.
I guess what I am trying to say is it does get better. It gets better in degrees. Everyone's spouse will eventually pass on. We are the unlucky few who have had this happen prematurely. Just remember, you are stronger than you think. Feel free to E-Mail.
Bud