Posted by valerie on August 24, 2001 at 06:02:13:
In Reply to: Nitwits! posted by AK on August 23, 2001 at 18:42:56:
People who haven't lost a spouse don't understand. They feel that if they see you dating they will feel better. The truth of it is all you want is someone to talk to about your husband. Me it is the good the bad and the ugly that I would like to share with. I am ready to date. My husband left me along time ago emotionally. He had a mental illnes, rather than a physical, but I surely wasn't ready at 6months, I was just starting to come out of the numb and feeling the real pain of loneliness, sadness and anger.
I like your line, true if he was in your front yard and still had his arms and legs he would definately be a gift from God.
I did have my little girls ask me when I was going to get a new daddy. They did it out of innocence and I could only tell them "I loved your daddy very much and it will probably take a while for me to find a man that I can love as much as him." they seemed to understand and haven't brought the subject up lately.
To the "Nitwits" forgive them and then tell them if and when your ready you will let them know. If you had a broken bone it would take a while for the bone to mend and then to get the strength back in it. If that was the case they wouldn't ask you why you can't pick up that 40lb bag of dog food, with one hand right?!
Good luck and Lean on the Lord for your strength.