Posted by Bryan Cady on July 23, 2001 at 16:54:25:
In Reply to: Lost my young wife posted by jb on July 23, 2001 at 08:35:22:
I realize that most words are futile right now. I was in shock for about 6 months after I lost my wife and child from a drunk driver. Then it hit me. I still suffer from the loss. Her death was 4 days after our 3rd wedding anniversary. I know the mixed feelings you are probably having. Severe lows followed by strange highs. Sleep was a commidity for me and still is. I ended up seeing my doctor. Who prescribed me an anti-depressant. Not being big on medications I was hesitant. But realizing that it would be a long long time before I got better, I accepted. I was also given a non-narcotic sleeping sedative that didn't make me feel drugged the next day. No, I'm not advertising for any company, it's just that I needed that just to get through the day. I got more sleep and was able to deal with it better on my own. Anti-depressants aren't "high" pills, they only bring your mood up to normal levels so you can deal with your trauma on your own. It helps. It helps even more to talk about your loss with someone who has experienced a similar loss. Not with someone who lost their dog or grandmother, but someone who lost their wife too early. Write me if you ever need to talk.
God Bless,
Bryan