Posted by Amy on July 17, 2001 at 17:57:44:
In Reply to: The kids.... posted by Bobbi on March 27, 2001 at 15:06:59:
Bobbi,
I am a 30 year old widow. My husband died when my little boy was 8 months old and my daughter was 3. My daughter greeved alot for her father. However,I cried alot when I was ALONE. I did not want her to see me falling apart over and over again. That gives her a feeling that her entire world is falling apart and that makes the situation worse. She looked to me for strength and that is what she got. I also feel you should talk about their daddy when
the times are right. Most of these times will be when your children ask the questions. Never refuse to answer a question just because you think it will hurt them. They are asking the question because because they really, really want to know something. They need to know all about their father. It is part of the healing process. My little girl is now 6 years old and doing very, very well. She is thriving at school, home and espically in the relationships that she enters. She knows everything their is to know about her father and what happened to him. She can now talk about her father with a huge smile on her face and loves for people to know that she too had a father that was as wonderful as everybody elses father. She even tells cute stories to the neighbors about how her daddy use to push her in a box in our hallway when she was little. And yes, she still loves God very much. Explain to your children that God knows what is best for us and will always take care of us in hard times like these. Attending church will also help your children to understand about God. Please don't give up. I will pray for you and your children. I wish you the very best and hope that over time things will get better. If you would like to talk further please email me at ajeanfreau@eatel.net.
With warm simpathy,
Amy Jeanfreau