Posted by Mike on January 19, 2001 at 15:13:55:
In Reply to: Losing my wife posted by John on January 04, 2001 at 19:40:27:
John,
Bless you and your daughter for you are facing a difficult road ahead. I too was widowed two years ago and had a newborn son. My wife was eight months pregnant when she was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. Our son was born by C-Section but she hemorraged during her surgery to remove the tumor and died a week later. We also had a four year old daughter.
It took about a month for the shock to wear off and this is when the most difficult part began. The only thing I could do was just take things 5 minutes at a time. When I got through that I began thinking just get through the next hour and then the next day. The grief still hits you, two years later it still hits me when I smell a hospital or when I was sitting at my daughters kindergarten graduation. But I just learned to acknowledge the feelings and go forward. The only advice I would give is to find a support group in your area. I found that talking to others helped me more than anything. Just know that while it probably feels as though the world has come to an end, you will get through this.