Re: My Baby Is Dead

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Posted by Julie on January 15, 2001 at 13:37:20:

In Reply to: My Baby Is Dead posted by Bluchie on January 13, 2001 at 07:43:38:

Dearest Bluchie, I am so sorry for your sad and unexpected loss of your baby. I think it was absolutely appaling th way the doctors treated your wife prior to the emergency cesearean. They SHOULD have doen several ultrasound scans througout her pregnancy, just because it was her third child should not have made a difference, they think they know what they are doing, how wrong they were. Even the size of your wife should have explained more to them, pre-eclampsia for example, which causes lots of retained fluid in the abdomen and of course the ankles, her blood pressure should have been checked weekly and her abdomen. Too many should haves just could have saved your poor baby. I know why you feel so angry and hurt and you really need to blame someone, cause it definetaly was not yourself or your wifes fault, please remember that. I know this because my husband was taken away from me in a matter of seconds, (Dec.99) one minute we were lying in bed watching tv the next, i was trying with all my heart and soul to save him. He died of a heart disease, Ascethelsclorices, apparently it is heriditery, Derek was only 38yrs young. His brother aged 42yrs died 21 days before him of a heart disease, his parents both have heart disease. Why was this not detected years ago. I have a daughter aged 6yrs and a son aged 2yrs, my late brother in law has four sons aged from 5yrs to 18yrs. My husband had been complaining of chest pains for a year previous and was checked by his doctor but was put on mediication for high blood pressure. They then said it was due to his profession and all stress related (he had his own businesses, 4 hair salons) which I have now taken over. He was still complaining when his brother was in hospital (before he died) but was still told the same things and that he was on a waiting list to be seen by a heart specialist. Even after his brother died he spoke to the heart specialist and told him he must see him as he did not want what happened to his brother and dad (his father took a heart attack 10 days after his brother died) happen to him. Sadly he did not make that appointment. I too am SO angry that this system has let us down. Its all so wrong, i am in the process of filing a lawsuit with the hospital, i have to do something they were at fault through negligence, they took my life away like they did your pure and very innocent child. I do hope you find some answers bluchie, but in the meantime be strong for yourself, your wife and kids. I left my email address if your need support. (Julie, Scotland)

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